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I found that people will not be offended if you suggest a first date before they are ready.

In my experience, the other person would offer an excuse but continue communicating.

Other times, people are just reluctant to meet you because they are still trying to decide if they like you.

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Our series of true dating stories continues with today’s essay by Jen Doll. Why was it that being clever and sarcastic and keeping people on their toes was more “acceptable” than asserting what you wanted and letting the possible dates sort themselves into those who wanted the same things, and those who would walk away and wish you well? This idea of knowing what you wanted and actually saying it, it was scary — but it resonated. I wanted someone who knows himself, a good driver (I’ve ridden with too many bad ones), a person who was aligned with me politically.

After going through a rough break up, she turned to a therapist for support. For so long, I’d accepted the guys who liked me first, who seemed like they might get me , and I’d tried to make myself fit around them, to make us work. I also bragged about being able to ski on one ski — sometimes you’ve got to be a little bit funny while also tooting your own horn. Jen Doll has written for The Atlantic, Elle, New York Magazine, The New York Times Book Review and other publications.

Or, more accurately, first, a younger male friend commandeered my Tinder account (he agreed with my therapist wholeheartedly) and then I changed it still more, because dating, like life, is something of a group effort sometimes.

It took a week and a few glasses of wine but I did it.

By this point you have talked back and forth twice and can measure how well you are getting along.

You will be able to judge the situation better as you communicate: sometimes you’ll get a date on your first email, other times you may realize a few weeks of communication would be best.

A grown woman (or man if the lady is asking) can decide in a few weeks if she would like to meet you – someone looking for a pen pal should do so somewhere else.

Your time is valuable and should be used to communicate with people truly interested in meeting you.

He might last for 3 months or he might last for 8.5, but either way we’d learn and love and laugh together until we parted ways, because, as I often told friends, not every romance is meant to last forever. My last Tinder profile had a picture of me in shorts with a fading bruise on my leg, and I’d written, “The bruise is gone.” Was I really going to go off about silver arrows, like some kind of self-help book come to life? In my next session, I shared a few things from my list of wants, which included: someone who is socially aware and passionate, someone who is unafraid and wants to move forward, good-looking, tall(ish).

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