If they see anything in the courtship that they don’t approve of, they will not hesitate to become involved, and can even request (or demand) that the relationship be terminated, either permanently or for a period of time.
He will observe how she interacts with her family and other church members and see if she holds the church standards in high regard.
He may talk with her during a youth event and will probably get to know her father.
Now, the Amish and Mennonites handle the next part differently. In Mennonite groups, the boy will usually call the father to ask his permission before asking the girl to court.
In Amish groups, the boy will first show his interest by asking the girl if he can drive her home after a youth event. She will typically wait for anywhere from several hours to several weeks before giving her reply.
We practice segregated seating in our church services, and it would be considered very brazen for a girl to approach a boy to talk.
Most of the interaction between the guys and girls comes during hymn sings or Bible school events, and is subtle and fleeting.
when you think of romance, you probably envision candles, roses, and a nice restaurant.
Oh, and the perfect evening always ends with a kiss, right? Now, I’d like to preface this post by saying that, just like the rest of the world, The Amish in Indiana are going to be quite different than those living in Ohio, and those living in Ohio are different than those living in Pennsylvania, and so on.
Most courtships end in marriage, although committing to a courtship does not mean that you are committed to marry that person.