Much like that annoying guy who’d rage quit from your DOTA session if you didn’t do things Just So, they treat dating as a series of steps that To these would-be dating Min-Maxers, you have a limited time within which to get your various firsts – your first date, your first kiss, your first sexual experience, etc.
If you miss that window, then you’re fucked; you’re now saddled with a permanent debuff to your dating odds that you’ll overcome.
Of course, this window of opportunity bears about as much resemblance to reality as Pokemon does to animal husbandry.
The numbers are arbitrary and invented and almost always tend to be pulled from thin air; I’ve had statistics when it comes to sex and relationships.
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When you write a dating advice column, one of the inevitable questions that comes up is the idea of inexperience.
But your inexperience doesn’t of people treat dating like a game.
To them, dating is less of an organic experience and more of a collection of statistics, perfect builds and arbitrary rules that bear absolutely no relationship to reality.
However, there’s a significant difference between owning your inexperience and letting it own you.
If you venture into any Forever Alone or incel community like /r9k/, you’ll see hundreds of people lamenting how much sex they’ve never had and how the world is conspiring against them.
Of course that then leads to the question of just For a lot of men, the anxiety surrounding their dating inexperience can be overwhelming.
They become intimidated by women whom they fear have more experience than they do.
We tend to make assumptions based around expectations built up by pop-culture and expectations about what makes a “real” man, assuming that everybody (but us) has been riding the sex train since the 5th Grade while we’re still Machokeing our Combusken at 19.